Anti-Porn Advocate Shelley Lubben’s Shock Death…My Thoughts

Shelley Lubben - Anti Porn Advocate shock death

Ex-Porn Star. Author. Child Sexual Abuse Survivor. Anti-Porn Advocate. Mother.

Pill popper. Alcoholic. Scam Artist. Abuser. Addict. Hypocrite.

One woman; two very different lives. Is her death really a shock?

Shelley Lubben

“Shelley Lubben died yesterday. I’m in shock. I just don’t know what happened…”

This was an email I received two days ago from a friend; a woman who, like Lubben, is a survivor of the sex industry. Reading the email, I felt my jaw fall open…  

You see, it’s been some years since I’ve followed Shelley’s work — mostly, because of the drama, and allegations over the years that were coming to light about the Pink Cross Foundation CEO.

There were videos from ex-porn performers who alleged Lubben had offered support but never followed up. There were others who claimed that she used their face, and personal tragedies, to run fundraisers — but kept all the money for herself.

Then, in recent years, came a series of court appearances, a messy divorce, and allegations of domestic violence toward her husband (which were dismissed).

Shelley Lubben
Shelley Lubben in 2014. Source: Facebook

Her house burned down (again, under allegedly suspicious circumstances), and her lover (who she allegedly cheated on her husband with) is now serving an 11-year prison sentence for a DUI hit-and-run with a cyclist in 2017.

But it didn’t stop there. Over the past two years, more embarrassing and shocking details continued to emerge. Her life, and reputation, was in absolute shambles.

To be honest, is it really that shocking that Lubben’s life has ended at just 50 years of age? 

Most of this information was leaked by a man by the name of Michael Whiteacre — a writer and editor who had been obsessively documenting Lubben for the past 7+ years, via a blog: The Devil and Shelley Lubben. Along with his YouTube videos, Whiteacre also ran a Facebook page of the same name.

Michael Whiteacre & Shelley Lubben
Michael Whiteacre had been creating expose videos on Lubben for many years

From court documents, to pictures of the various medications she was allegedly taking, Whiteacre has shown a consistent and — to be frank, strange — level of interest in Lubben.

Anyone who is familiar with my work, and my integrity, knows that I’m all about ‘truth.’ I’m a naturally sensitive and compassionate person, but at the end of the day, facts rule — and people who are being exploited, deserve justice.

That said, while I appreciate Whiteacre, and others, bringing to light the failings, hypocrisy, and exploitation that many have suffered at the hands of Lubben, I don’t understand why his crusade for ‘truth’ continued long after Lubben closed her charity in 2015.

One must wonder…what is Whiteacre’s ‘motivation’ for spending over 7 years of his life relentlessly documenting and publicly airing one person’s every mistake, bad decision, or ‘dirty piece of laundry’? (His answer has always been about ‘truth’, apparently. I feel there must be something more personal brimming underneath…)

A quick glance over Lubben’s social media over the years, including her videos, showed that there were more than a few red flags… Whatever issues she was using medication for, I don’t feel is anyone’s business but her and her doctor. Whiteacre’s decision (or apparent satisfaction) in airing this to the world, seems to me about more than just pursuing ‘truth.’ 

Unsurprisingly, within hours of her death on February 9th, Whiteacre was quick to report that Lubben had died of an overdose (which was no doubt titillating to those who hated Lubben).

According to close friends of Lubben, however, another detail to this tragedy is that an immediate family member allegedly committed suicide last week. This same person has reported that, after this family tragedy, the Pink Cross Foundation CEO suffered a stroke and died.

Shelley Lubben cause of death

(Out of respect to her family, and a lack of media confirmation, I will not mention which family member it was who allegedly suicided. But I can imagine the absolute pain Lubben would have been in, if this is indeed true).

At the end of the day, Shelley Lubben is dead.

Her children are without a mother, and her friends and ex-husband need privacy and time to mourn. Those who were exploited by Lubben, now have a chance to seek closure and move on.

But let’s not revel with joy in the death of someone who suffered so much trauma in her youth, and despite her brokenness, managed to make a positive difference in the lives of many. Let’s not forget the woman who fought hard, and courageously, against an industry that damages, and silences, so many victims of abuse…

Shelley Lubben's Legacy
A quote from my 2013 article ‘A Story of Redemption’, in which an ex-sex industry performer, Genevieve (who later founded Pink Cross Australia) shared of the impact Shelley had had on her journey of healing

Reading about people’s experiences with Lubben feels almost like reading about two different people… Something which, no doubt, played into her downward spiral. 

I do need to clarify this… I do not, and cannot, condone the ways she has caused harm to many who trusted her. But I also see a very broken woman who was struggling with addictions that she had either deluded herself into thinking weren’t there, or that she literally just could not face.

So, as I said on Facebook: I want to acknowledge the good that she did in our world. For anyone who has been wronged by Shelley, I hope that they find healing and justice…

But above all, I don’t think anything good can come from ‘rejoicing’ the death of Shelley Lubben.

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